This time, about how to prolong sex long and well, why foreplay is important (in case you still had any doubts), why you are afraid of not being able to satisfy your partner and what a different sexuality entails.
It’s hard to get to the point where you can say you know everything about sex—and especially how to have better sex . Maybe it will never happen in life, because things change and sexuality needs to be explored. So for a healthy and good sex life , learn and experiment. In the spirit of this prompt, we have collected for you excellent answers to the questions you sent us.
Enough, here are the answers to your curiosities – courtesy of Kitty Rea, experienced coach.
The thousand point question: “How can I last longer in bed?”
The first thing you need to do if you want to last longer in bed is not to put pressure on yourself to last longer in bed. That’s the surest recipe for failure, because all that pressure of having to last for hours makes it super hard to stay in control. Therefore, I would focus on more self-confidence and more control in the bedroom. That means familiarizing yourself with sex toys for your partner. Also offer oral sex, lots of petting, kissing or masturbating to make sure she’s satisfied. This will take away from that mental pressure to “perform” with just the penis.
News flash: If you have female partners, your penis won’t do much anyway, because most of them reach orgasm with the clitoris. So if you’re a straight guy, become a clitoris expert and how long your erection will be the least important part of intercourse with your partner. However, regardless of the type of people you are attracted to, if you see that they feel comfortable in intimacy with you, you will gain more confidence and reduce the pressure.
Then, if you still want to prolong the joy of erection for yourself, you can do Kegel exercises (yes, they are good for men too, to teach you muscle control). Take frequent breaks when you feel things heating up and getting close to ejaculation and focus on something else – like that five-button, seven-speed sex toy. If you feel too aroused, you can stop the stimulation altogether and grab your penis by the base with your hand and squeeze hard. This will give you a moment of relaxation. After you have “cooled down” with other actions in bed or with a well-deserved break, you can focus on your erection again.
The most important step in this whole thing is to learn the sensations of your body. Know when you’re getting close to ejaculation and when to slow down. The more you realize your feelings, the more control you will have over them.
An open discussion in her time solves a lot: “The partner goes directly to sex without even having a foreplay. What should I do?”
An open and honest discussion on the subject is the best “treatment”. You can tell him that you like to get into a rhythm before jumping straight into the action, why foreplay is important to you, and how sex feels when it’s missing. Most often, the problem is that our partners don’t know how the things they do feel in their bodies, but also in our heads. … Read the rest