This time, about how to prolong sex long and well, why foreplay is important (in case you still had any doubts), why you are afraid of not being able to satisfy your partner and what a different sexuality entails.

It’s hard to get to the point where you can say you know everything about sex—and especially how to have better sex . Maybe it will never happen in life, because things change and sexuality needs to be explored. So for a healthy and good sex life , learn and experiment. In the spirit of this prompt, we have collected for you excellent answers to the questions you sent us.

Enough, here are the answers to your curiosities – courtesy of Kitty Rea, experienced coach.

The thousand point question: “How can I last longer in bed?”

The first thing you need to do if you want to last longer in bed is not to put pressure on yourself to last longer in bed. That’s the surest recipe for failure, because all that pressure of having to last for hours makes it super hard to stay in control. Therefore, I would focus on more self-confidence and more control in the bedroom. That means familiarizing yourself with sex toys for your partner. Also offer oral sex, lots of petting, kissing or masturbating to make sure she’s satisfied. This will take away from that mental pressure to “perform” with just the penis.

News flash: If you have female partners, your penis won’t do much anyway, because most of them reach orgasm with the clitoris. So if you’re a straight guy, become a clitoris expert and how long your erection will be the least important part of intercourse with your partner. However, regardless of the type of people you are attracted to, if you see that they feel comfortable in intimacy with you, you will gain more confidence and reduce the pressure.

Then, if you still want to prolong the joy of erection for yourself, you can do Kegel exercises (yes, they are good for men too, to teach you muscle control). Take frequent breaks when you feel things heating up and getting close to ejaculation and focus on something else – like that five-button, seven-speed sex toy. If you feel too aroused, you can stop the stimulation altogether and grab your penis by the base with your hand and squeeze hard. This will give you a moment of relaxation. After you have “cooled down” with other actions in bed or with a well-deserved break, you can focus on your erection again.

The most important step in this whole thing is to learn the sensations of your body. Know when you’re getting close to ejaculation and when to slow down. The more you realize your feelings, the more control you will have over them.

An open discussion in her time solves a lot: “The partner goes directly to sex without even having a foreplay. What should I do?”

An open and honest discussion on the subject is the best “treatment”. You can tell him that you like to get into a rhythm before jumping straight into the action, why foreplay is important to you, and how sex feels when it’s missing. Most often, the problem is that our partners don’t know how the things they do feel in their bodies, but also in our heads. … Read the rest

“Many believe that the risk of contracting an STD is lower if you get a handjob instead of having sex.”

In the heart of India ‘s capital , a neon-lit men’s salon named after a popular Greek island claims to be a hotel. It looks like an ordinary hotel from the outside, indeed, but the inside is something else entirely.

For just 1,500 rupees ($18), you get a full body massage with a handjob. You can also enter the dark room, which is just a glory hole , no lights, nothing. According to Urban Dictionary , “a gloryhole is a hole made in a partition wall where one can insert his penis to be stimulated by an anonymous person on the other side of the wall.” Even people without penises can enjoy glory holes, because you can urinate through them, stick your ass or your fingers in them.

Ashish Chopra, 27, works as a hiring manager in an IT firm. A friend recommended this salon to him, but he was initially sceptical because he had never been to a gay men’s salon in India. Still, he was curious.

“You can’t take photos because you leave your phone and clothes in a locked closet before entering the salon. There are small rooms in front of which men from northeast India are sitting,” Chopra told VICE.

India is dotted with massage parlours. Some offer only sex , others only massage. In 2014, Goa state police raided twenty massage parlours and arrested over 35 people for prostitution. In 2017, police arrested six women in Gurugram, Haryana, for engaging in illegal sex activities in one such parlour.

For fear of the police, salons now have fully clothed masseuses or masseuses who are always ready to touch more innocent parts of the body in case the police come. However, some recent laws have been passed in India that allow these salons to operate.

Chopra opted for a happy ending massage. “Why? Because I found it thrilling and I had been in massage parlours like this before in Paris.” He thought it was worth a try in Delhi as well, although he was a bit worried about STDs. “When I entered the dark room, I was given oral sex by three different men. It was fascinating, because I couldn’t see anything, but I could feel that people were changing, that they had a different height, weight, a different haircut. But we were also afraid that the police would come over us.”

How do customers request these special services? We asked Nikita, who works in several salons, and she asked us to only give her first name.

“In some cases, the salon may be massage-only, but the masseurs accept six propositions from customers in order to receive a tip. As there are no cameras in the massage rooms, you don’t really have a way to see what’s going on there, so you have no way to stop this thing,” she said.

In the salons she has been managing for about ten years, “the massage rooms always have the door ajar and we are alert to any kind of strange behaviour. For example, it is a bad sign if the masseuse entered the room with a seated appearance and comes out dishevelled and red-faced. Or if a client always asks for the same masseur or masseuse. … Read the rest

Position 4 was considered the best sex position in the survey in 2022. She stood out from the others for different reasons listed by the research participants: it allows several stimuli at the same time, you can play with the clitoris, the hands are free to touch the partnership and so on.

But did you know that the all-fours position can be done in different ways? That’s right, it’s possible to leave the traditional and keep the characteristics you like most in this sexual position with few adaptations – and that’s what I’m going to show you in this post!

Get ready to renew bedroom sex with these 9 4 position variations:

1- Position of 4 on the edge of the bed

Leaving the traditional doggy style, in which the two people are on the bed on their knees, in this proposal, the person who penetrates stands next to the bed, while the person being penetrated stands on four supports on the edge of the bed.

For this position to be comfortable for both of you, the person who is in bed can support himself on his knees and hands, with his arms even extended. This helps maintain a similar height between the two of you.

2- On the wall

The idea here is that the penetrated person’s upper supports are on the wall. So, in this position, both partnerships are standing – the height of the couple can make a difference for this position of 4 to work or not, but, if you need to, you can use a safe stool to equalize.

The inclination of the person being penetrated can vary, in 45º or about 65º, that is, he will not be completely erect. An advantage of this position is that it facilitates the use of sex toys, such as a bullet for clitoral stimulation or a penis vibrator.

3- Sphinx

This position is on my list of positions for anal sex and it’s no wonder it made it to this list too. It is a very pleasant position and, as I mentioned, allows anal penetration with comfort and practicality. The person being penetrated must lie on the bed on all fours: the forearms with the elbows and the whole part of the shin.

Thus, she is very close to the mattress and, for this, she needs to open her legs more, which requires some flexibility in the groin area. It’s good for anal because it makes the muscles of the organ very relaxed, which makes penetration less painful – but don’t forget to use a good lubricant!

4- Facing the mattress

The 4 face position on the mattress is a well-known and practiced variation. The idea is that the person being penetrated, instead of supporting himself on the bed with his hands or elbows, has his face leaning against the mattress. In this way, the butt is raised, which promotes a very interesting stimulation in the vagina.

And the advantages don’t stop there, that way, the anus is in evidence, so, there can be an anal penetration or a very interesting visual stimulus for those who are penetrating, who can masturbate the anus of the partnership. This position is also a good choice for couples who enjoy domination, because it leaves the penetrating person with greater control of the situation, being able to touch the body and … Read the rest